The Art of Un-Becoming

roadWe spend so much of our lives trying to become.

Of course we all, on some level, have the urge to grow and progress, but it’s important to consider the following: no matter what you acquire, achieve, or become, none of it brings lasting fulfillment. 

Haven’t you experienced this?

You’ve achieved something or reached a goal and you’re afterwards left with a feeling of ‘now what?’

We’re told from a very young age that achievement is the key to happiness and that we must earn our happiness and peace through achievement. We’re told we must become something (and yet we’re always feeling like we’ve never quite made it).

Graduating high school is simply a doorway to beginning college, which in turn is a doorway to finding a really great career. Then we’re supposed to climb our way up the ladder until we’re making more money and then finally able to buy a big house, a better car, and a “happier” life. We then work really hard to pay for these things and to save for retirement. Then, when we’re old and gray we’re finally able to relax and enjoy the fruits of all of this labor. We’re told that life is meant to be one achievement after the other and that we must always be in the process of becoming, and that is the road to happiness.

We’re also convinced that objects can bring us peace. Have you ever purchased something you thought might finally bring you a real sense contentment only to find yourself either losing interest in that thing or feeling the urge to continue to purchase more of it? Have you ever founbuyd yourself accumulating other material objects that promised you happiness?

It’s everywhere in our society – commercials, billboards, advertisements. All of these things promise to provide you with a lasting sense of peace, and they inadvertently promise to fill your void.

We’re told that achievement and the accumulation of material objects is the key to happiness and what makes us valuable citizens.

But here’s the thing: we’ve been duped.

There is no object that can bring us peace. There is no objective experience that can bring us peace. Seeking completion prevents you from knowing that you are complete.

We’re all searching endlessly for peace and happiness, restless and overworked. We’re bogged down by stress, exhaustion, worry, and anxiety. We’re all seeking for something which cannot be sought — do you see how this could make you suffer?

So here’s what’s true: that bigger house, that nicer car, that better body, that romantic partner, that material object, that career, that diploma, that outfit, or that achievement will never give you fulfillment. If you think any of these things have or might, know that the feeling of fulfillment will only be temporary – and wouldn’t that, then, negate the fulfillment?

So while we’ve invested so much time and energy into seeking outward peace, it can be difficult to aliberatedccept that all of that seeking has been for naught. However, allow this knowing to liberate you.

There isn’t anything you need.

You’re complete.

There’s nowhere to go.

There’s nothing to acquire.

This being said, there isn’t anything wrong with achievement, acquiring material objects, or desiring anything at all once you’ve come to the realization that nothing can possibly bring you lasting peace. A weight is then lifted. There is less pressure and these things are allowed to be seen as simply fun and experiential rather than crucial.

Rest easy knowing that the larger part of you rests in utter perfection and completion.

Rest easy knowing there’s nothing that the larger part of you wants or needs.

Rest easy.

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