The New Year brings forth a perfect time to do tons of self-reflection and to finally make the changes we’ve been meaning to make, but putting on the back-burner. It would seem, however, that many of us ditch our New Years goals rather quickly, forgetting the initial burn and desire for improvement and change that we had at the first of the year:
For me personally, the resolutions I’ve made generally have to do with money –making more money, becoming a spectacular saver, investing it wisely, etc. I’d begin the year very gung-ho, ready and willing to do what it took to have the best money habits one could acquire. Of course for a few weeks, I’d do really well –my checking account would blossom a bit, I’d begin to save, and create a spectacular budget-plan.
However, there was one hugely, enormously, extremely important factor I had overlooked, and it was this: I had very deep-seated negative views about money that I’d accumulated over many years of negative thinking. When it came down to it, money made me all-around, dizzyingly, vastly uncomfortable. This sprang from a variety of factors, including my family’s views about money, my experiences with running low on the stuff and spiraling into a consequent panicked frenzy, and not knowing how to properly manage it. Even the word ‘money’ created an overwhelming tightness in the pit of my stomach. How was I to revamp my life and completely change my relationship with money on the first of the year if I couldn’t even say the word without feeling a twinge of panic?
In the words of Thich Nhat Hanh, “For things to reveal themselves to us, we need to be ready to abandon our views about them.”
This quote gave me what Oprah might refer to as an “aha” moment.
The desire and motivation for change was present, but festering deep within me was a long-held fear. What was then required, if a New Year’s Resolution was to extend far beyond a couple months of solid change and permeate my life completely, was to locate those views, subconscious and otherwise, and pull them out into the open, one by one.
This required me to be brutally honest with myself, and pull thoughts, beliefs, and fears out of my hidden depths and into the light. I sat down with a pen and paper and listed all fears and negativity I harbored toward money. It began with ten things, ranging from being fearful of not having enough, to not knowing how to properly manage it, and quickly turned into fifteen, and twenty.
Almost immediately upon completing my list, I felt an incredible rush of energy and enthusiasm —mapping out my fears provided me with an outlet for releasing the suppressed energy that was being inhibited by these negative viewpoints. Some of the things I discovered and wrote down I hadn’t really been cognizant or aware of for many, many years. Even though I’d begin each year with a ridiculously optimistic outlook about transforming not only my relationship with money, but other bits of my life, too, I needed more than just optimism and enthusiasm –I needed to pull out the dead weeds inside of my mind to make room for planting new seeds.
So, if like me, you are super jazzed about a new year of making changes and revitalizing your life, take a few minutes to map out your truest desires and most wanted changes, and then find out if the core of you (the very core of you) contains any beliefs that are contradictory to your desire.
And though it may take some time to truly unearth all limiting beliefs, as they most likely have been accumulating over the course of many years, stay with it, and stay with those resolutions, through the month, through the year, and possibly (quite possibly) for life.
My own negative views about money (and other things, too) had been buried in my subconscious, totally preventing me from creating a healthy relationship with it. Once I unearthed some of these ‘weeds’, I had more room to grow, expand, a go after my deepest-held desires.
Here’s to powerful new beginnings.